Therapy for people with a lot going on.
Maybe it's trauma, shame, avoidance, anger, relationship patterns, family history, parenting stress, drinking, or the sense that everything is tangled together.
We can start with what feels most immediate and work our way toward what is underneath.
When everything feels tangled, we start with one thread.
Maybe you shut down in conflict, explode before you can catch yourself, or keep choosing people who hurt you. Maybe you drink more than you want to. Maybe you overextend yourself until you crash, avoid the things you know you need to face, or feel responsible for keeping everyone else okay.
From the outside, your life may look functional. Inside, you may feel ashamed, numb, angry, overwhelmed, or exhausted in a way that is hard to explain.
Most patterns come from somewhere. The way you cope now may be connected to things you had to survive, relationships you had to manage, or needs you learned to push down.
Therapy with me is about slowing the pattern down enough to understand it. We can start with what feels most immediate and work our way toward what has been underneath it.
My Approach
Direct
I’m active in the room. I’ll tell you what I’m noticing, ask honest questions, and help you slow down enough to understand what is happening underneath the pattern. I’m warm and collaborative, and I’m also willing to be clear when clarity would help.
Contextual
I believe people make sense in context. The coping strategies you feel ashamed of probably developed for a reason. In therapy, we look at what a pattern has been doing for you, what it has been protecting you from, and whether it still fits the life you are trying to build now.
Real
I’m warm, honest, informal, and very hard to shock. You can bring the complicated version of the story here. My style is relational, trauma-informed, and grounded in both insight and practical tools. We may talk about trauma, substance use, shame, anger, avoidance, relationships, family history, or whatever else is part of the knot.
Specialties
Different entry points to the same deeper work: understanding what shaped the pattern, what keeps it going, and what needs to change.
EMDR
When trauma still feels alive in your body, reactions, relationships, or sense of self.
IFS
For the part of you that wants change and the part of you that is terrified of what change might cost.
Substance Use Therapy
A shame-free space to talk openly about drinking or substance use and work toward meaningful change.
Men’s Mental Health
For shame, anger, parenting, shutdown, drinking, relationship stress, and the pressure to handle everything alone.
Self-Abandonment
When you are fluent in everyone else’s needs, moods, and reactions, but disconnected from your own.
I work with adults who are ready to understand what keeps repeating.
People often come to therapy because one part of life has become hard to ignore.
Conflict. Shame. Burnout. Avoidance. Substance use. A relationship pattern that keeps playing out.
Therapy gives us room to slow it down, make sense of it, and work with what is underneath.
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You may have grown up around chaos, criticism, emotional neglect, instability, or family dynamics that required you to grow up too fast. Those experiences can still shape how you handle conflict, closeness, boundaries, anger, shame, and your own needs.
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Drinking or using substances may be the thing that finally got your attention. We can look at the behavior directly while also understanding what it helps you manage, avoid, numb, express, or survive.
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Anxiety, anger, numbness, overwhelm, and shame can all be signs that your system is working hard to manage something. We can slow down what happens before, during, and after those reactions so they start to feel less confusing and less automatic.
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Some people cope by disappearing. Some cope by doing everything. Some do both. We can look at procrastination, people-managing, burnout, perfectionism, overextending, shutting down, and the pressure to keep functioning even when you are running on fumes.
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You may be highly attuned to everyone else’s needs, moods, and reactions while feeling disconnected from your own. This can show up as fawning, conflict avoidance, resentment, choosing unavailable people, or staying in dynamics that cost too much.
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You may understand the pattern intellectually and still feel unable to change it. That stuckness usually has a logic to it. We can work with the part of you that wants change and the part of you that has very good reasons to resist it.